Mean mummy

My very indignant 6-year-old has just stormed off in a huff after telling me and her Daddy that we’re mean.

It’s a snow day here in Birmingham. It started snowing yesterday and that started off an afternoon of singing “Do you want to build a snowman?” and sulking because there wasn’t enough snow on the ground to make a snowman. (Admittedly, that was from both myself and Chloe.)

We woke up this morning to find a lovely blanket of snow everywhere. Paul insists we have to eat breakfast and then we bundle up warm, make snow angels, have a snowball fight and build a snowman. Paul makes us lunch, we dry off and eat and start playing with Lego only to be asked when Santa is coming.

In her, admittedly very limited life experience, Chloe already associates snow with Christmas. There is snow, ergo it must be Christmas. I explain that Santa only comes at Christmas which is in December and it’s only March. Insert a quick learning moment where we go over our months and realise December is a whole nine months away and that Santa isn’t coming.

Chloe doesn’t like this answer. She gets up and runs off and the next thing I hear is “Daddy, when’s Santa coming?” Luckily, Paul heard my answer and tells her the same thing. Chloe was very unimpressed to hear this, shouts at us that we’re mean and stomped upstairs.

I know we should be telling her off for shouting at us and waking Harry up from his afternoon nap, but honestly I’m too busy laughing!


The 101 Things in 1001 Days Challenge

As part of my recovery from Post Partum Depression, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about who I am, who I want to be and what I want to do with my life. Whilst doing this, I discovered the The 101 Things in 1001 Days Challenge at

Day Zero started out with the catchy challenge of completing 101 things in 1001 days. This has been enormously popular with tens of thousands of people getting involved and sharing their lists. We now offer many more types of challenges, but here are the original guidelines for the challenge:

The Challenge:
Complete 101 preset tasks in a period of 1001 days.

The Criteria:
Tasks must be specific (ie. no ambiguity in the wording) with a result that is either measurable or clearly defined. Tasks must also be realistic and stretching (ie. represent some amount of work on your part).

My list can be found here


I’m not even going to think about how long it’s been since I’ve posted anything here. To say that 2017 didn’t quite go to plan would be a little bit of an understatement and everything that wasn’t immediately important got pushed to one side and basically forgotten about. I’m finally feeling like I have time to sit down, breathe and take stock of everything that’s happened in the last 7 or 8 months.

The cliffnotes version of it is:

  • My mum got diagnosed with breast cancer – but is in remission as of Christmas Eve
  • Paul & I got married in the summer.
  • We moved house, because of
  • We welcomed baby #2 into the world in November. A little boy called Harry.

Things, as you can imagine, have been a little hectic – but for the most part it’s all been very positive and very exciting.

That brings me to today. I picked up my computer for the first time in 2 or 3 months, checked my emails, updated my goodreads and now here I am blogging. Paul is in his chair watching football, Chloe is taking up as much floor space as possible doing some colouring in, Harry is asleep on my chest and Taylor Swift is singing my ears. It’s about as perfect as it can get right now.

I’ve been doing a lot of taking stock of my life, of figuring out who I am and who I want to be. I lost myself somewhere in all the chaos so my main goal for 2018 is to redefine who Tabby is. And hopefully you’ll be joining on me on this journey of re-discovery


I kind of forgot I had one of these until I was catching up on emails earlier this evening and had a WordPress notification so I’m thinking May

(I’m not even entirely sure where April went. I don’t feel like I actually achieved anything during the month. One minute it was March and now it’s May.)

is going to be a kind of reboot and see if I can find some kind of rhythm or routine to posting here. I feel that as a trainee blogger of sorts, I should find a more experienced one to teach me the ropes, some kind of WordPress <a href=””>Apprenticeship</a&gt; scheme.

Is there anything like that available?
Because that would be really useful. I’m not very good at figuring things like this out. Give me a nice instruction set, a how-to, a dummies guide and I’ll be fine. Something where I have to work it out for myself, not even a strting place and I don’t know where to start. I’m feeling floundery and that’s probably not helping with the issues of not posting and not being here.

Media – 17 Mar 2017 to 24 Mar 2017

One of the things I am loving about the internet is that there are websites to track what I’m doing – fitness, food, music, books, tv/movies. I don’t watch a lot of tv and movies due to a lack of time, but I listen to a lot of music and read a lot and I’ve been having fun getting to see my statistics.

My top artists: Brantley Gilbert, Dierks Bentley, LeAnn Rimes, Brad Paisley, Carrie Underwood, Chris Young, Darius Rucker, Dixie Chicks, Kristian Bush and Little Big Town
My top tracks: Brantley Gilbert — Rockin’ Chairs; LeAnn Rimes — The Story; Dierks Bentley — 5-1-5-0; Chris Young — Aw Naw; Carrie Underwood — Before He Cheats
It shouldn’t come as any surprise that my top genres listened to were Country and Modern Country

I read Anne Rice’s Interview With The Vampire & The Vampire Lestat. Today I started reading Queen Of The Damned.
Top genres were – unsurprisngly – Horror & Vampires

Movies & TV
TV None
Movies Interview With The Vampire, Beauty & The Beast 2017
Top genres were Fantasy & Romance

I’m interested to see what next week brings me

Mothering Sunday

Happy Mothering Sunday to all the other mum’s out there.

My little girl (and her daddy) made me breakfast in bed – Full English no less! – and a beautiful bouquet of flowers. I also got The Music Of Nashville S1 CD boxset and S1 of The Walking Dead on DVD. I feel very spoiled, very loved and I’m looking forward to curling up and watching that tonight after Chloe’s gone to sleep.

Paul then said I could spend the day doing whatever I wanted. And honestly, I’m still sitting here in bed. I sprained my ankle yesterday afternoon at the gym so I’m sitting here with it on a pillow, listening to Sam Palladio singing to me and I’ve been reading The Vampire Lestat. Kind of perfect, really.

A Proper Intro

Oh my Gosh, I completely meant to post a proper introduction on Sunday but then my little girl got sick and things all went insanely busy at work and I’ve barely had time to sit down until right now. And here I am finally online again.

Hello, hello to everyone who’s joined me on this crazy adventure! I’m not completely sure how to write an actual introduction despite having planned on doing so.

My name’s Tabby, I’m 29 and I live in Birmingham, England, with my fiance Paul and our 4 year old daughter Chloe. Paul & I have known each other since we were 8 and started dating at age 14. One day we’ll get married!
I’m a dance and fitness instructor. I’m also a complete water baby and keep thinking about looking into becoming a swimming instructor too.
I love country music.
I love urban fantasy and horror – especially vampires. I’m also a sucker for a good post-apocalupse/dystopia story.
I’m one of those people who will binge a whole series on Netflix, or sit up until 3am with a really good book.
I’m pretty outgoing, love people and I’m a sarcastic little bitch with a dark sense of humour. I’m pretty sure my mouth is going to be me in trouble one of these days.

Anything else anyone can think of that I should say in this introduction? Anything you’re just <i>dying</i> to know about me?